For as long as there have been fairy tales, the common theme is a beautiful princess being whisked away by a handsome prince to live happily ever after; a dream most women of today yearn for in life. The question is: Can a fairy tale really come true?
Many women of today are still longing for that one special someone that they will spend the rest of their lives with; someone to laugh with, cry with, love, and hold on to. Does this person actually exist, and where can he be found?
The Dating Trend
Many people today do not have the time to spend waiting around to bump into that special someone. For most, work, kids, family, and friends occupy their time let alone trying to find Prince Charming to settle down with.
Many men and women have taken it upon themselves to enter into the new dating age of online dating websites. As with most dating websites, they all promise that that special someone can be found through their services.
All legitimate and profitable match making websites have a standard questionnaire to be filled out upon signup, asking questions pertaining to hobbies, interests, likes, and dislikes, among other things. Of the known dating websites, eHarmony, Lavalife, PlentyOfFish and Perfectmatch are four of the most publicized and recommended sites.
Perfectmatch and eHarmony both pride themselves in the ability of their patented Compatibility Systems to match each person with the most compatible suitors. Competitors on the other end of the scale, PlentyOfFish and Lavalife, give the individual more freedom to let them be the one to determine the compatibility basis.
As reported by the Calgary Herald in the article “Canadians are Lucky in Love: Survey”, seven in ten Canadians that were polled reported that they were in love. Of that percentage, 16% claimed they found love online, primarily in the younger demographics. Of the people polled between the ages of 18 and 34, 75% claimed to have the love bug.
Dating site eHarmony claims, that on average, 236 members marry everyday. Like Perfectmatch, eHarmony also has a section on their website that includes comments from successful relationships that were spawned because of their sites.
The founder of PlentyOfFish, Markus Frind, reports that the average age of its members is 37. He states, “It’s so obvious that people would use online dating over other methods. If you’re 35 and single, what are the chances of you meeting someone at a bar or a grocery store who is exactly what you want?”
Truer words could not have been spoken. The chances of finding that compatible someone in a bar or a grocery store are slim at the very least. Finding that special someone is like grocery shopping though; everything has to be the right color, flavor, texture, and vibrancy, but that doesn’t mean that Mr. Right can always be found in a grocery store like fruits and vegetables. Sometimes we do need help determining the perfect qualities that we should be looking for, to know who we are best compatible with.
The Speed Dating Round
“And that’s the bell. It’s time to switch partners please. Gentlemen please rotate to the left.” These are words that would probably be heard at a speed dating event; a chance to meet 10-30 prospective men or women, with minimal time of contact, just enough to know if there is chemistry.
25dates.com is Canada’s leading speed dating service, and is the official speed dating company for the Toronto Blue Jays. 25dates.com operates with one-on-one dates in three minute intervals, averaging as many as 25 dates in one night. Over 75% of participants have claimed that they walked away with at least one match; someone that also felt chemistry with them.
Many men and women have tried the speed dating approach. Why not, right? Less time is spent with one that there are no commonalities with, and less money is spent because there is no actual date. Speed Dating Manifesto claims that 95% of men, and 80% of women that have tried speed dating, have reported that they had a positive experience.
As recorded by marketwire.com in the “In Speed Dating Men are Still the Hunters”, the President of 25dates.com, Ragna Stamm’ler, was quoted as saying, “We find after all this time, that speed dating is still the most effective way of meeting people. It combines the ease of internet dating, where our users can easily sign-up and communicate with us and potential partners, with that all-important face-to-face connection that we provide at our events.”
Everyone has contemplated the idea of turning up at a speed dating event and seeing what will happen. Why not take the plunge? Mr. Right could be the eighth guy that sits down.
You Can’t Hurry Love
Time usually does present many mysteries when they are least expected. There are still people out there that believe that Mr. Right will come along when he is supposed to, that it’ll happen when it’s supposed to happen. And yet many have spent countless hours looking for love, and probably in all the wrong places. But yet, still believe that Mr. Right is out there somewhere, he just hasn’t been found yet.
Both online dating websites and speed dating have increased in popularity and success rates over the years. Many men and women alike are jumping head first into the dating trends of today looking for Mr. or Mrs. Right.
Maybe time is the key to all of loves endeavors. The Supremes said it best when they sang, “You can’t hurry love. No you’ll just have to wait. Just trust, give it time, no matter how long it takes.” But that never stopped anyone from helping to speed up the process. He or she could be just a mouse click away or the next person to sit down in rotation.